White-collar “emotional violence” hurts
Not long ago, some netizens publicly complained on the Internet that people in buses and office elevators in many big cities had “bad expressions”, either with their eyebrows locked or blankness, and urged the public to pay attention to their expressions.
Experts believe that in the workplace, those “combined” features may be a form of violence for colleagues and partners around them.
On the contrary, if a smile is used to show people regardless of their state of mind, internal injuries will definitely occur over time.
Case: “Trauma” Liu Chao is particularly reluctant to go to work recently.
Wei Ran in the same office was either a long sigh or a bitter hatred all day; there was also Sun Fei next door, who didn’t know what to think about. He was always worried and misty, and his eyes were blurred.The farewell atmosphere of the body was almost the same; it was necessary to mention Uncle Zhang at the door of the delivery room. He didn’t raise his eyelids when talking to people.
Expert Dismantling: Learn to “ignore” bad emotions. The so-called “traumatic type” of “emotional violence” actually refers to the psychological damage caused by the external “bad expression” to the perceiver.
That is, through their expressions, others pass us a kind of negative, depression or anxiety, which causes distress and stress.
Just like Liu Chao in the case, the “bad expression” he thinks he cannot face calmly is actually three typical portraits of negative emotions-depression, sadness, and apathy.
Many of the “bad expressions” we see are actually a natural way of feedback after the parties have suffered setbacks and failures, and they are often uncontrolled.
Maybe Wei Ran used the savings to invest the stocks all the way down, and was very disgusted; Maybe Sun Fei’s boyfriend broke up with her, which was unacceptable for a while; Maybe Uncle Zhang’s fetters, his waist flickered, his body was unwell, and naturally he lost”Short among parents”.
It’s actually very simple, but suspicion and suspicion start to make you restless.
“Did he look at me?
“Why does he always have this virtue?”
“When you transfer someone’s frustration to yourself,” expressions “become a tool of violence.
Those who are bitter all day without speaking, generally have poor self-regulation and control ability, can’t treat things objectively, and have a lot of negative feelings about many external discussions and evaluations.
Experts suggest that you should “see and not mess” and respect others and protect yourself.
Case: “Internal Injury Type” Lace is a beautiful girl who works as a front desk in a five-star hotel and welcomes her with a smile every day.
But few people know that she often loses her temper when she gets home, picks and chooses when eating, can’t sleep in bed for a long time, and even tears easily.
Expert dismantling: barely smiling makes people more stressed “Internal injury type” in “emotional violence”, often forced to maintain a pleasant and natural attitude when negative emotions.
It is clinically called “smile depression”.
A beautiful expression that violates real feelings will put more pressure on people than the natural response of “crowning face”.
On the one hand, for the maker of expressions, showing a smile that is completely opposite to the real state when you are in a bad mood will make people feel more tired and sad.
On the other hand, such an unscrupulous smile will send a false “happy” message to relatives and friends around you, so that when you should receive comfort and encouragement, you have to bear the pressure alone.
Experts suggest that “smiling people” who have been in this kind of work for a long time do not have bright smiles, and they can have a peaceful manner, as long as they are within the code of professional ethics.